* There is nothing wrong with putting yourself first on occasion.

* You can’t help everyone no matter how hard you try.

* You need time for yourself.

* Don’t make excuses for it or rationalize it, just say “No, I can’t help with that.” Or “No, you can’t have that.”

* No applies to kids, friends, family members, schools, anyone that is asking you for something you don’t have time to do or can’t afford to do.

* If you’re not sure ask for time to think it over, if they refuse your request for time respond with a firm No I can’t help with that.

* Practice saying no … every day! No to kids, no to cashiers, no to telemarketers, no to your dog when she’s jumping on things.

* Remember your kids will grow up just fine without every cool toy on the market.

* Even if they’re mad now they’ll get over it, your kids will love you regardless, and your friends/family will understand if they truly care about you.

* No one will hold it against you that you are busy on the 7th at 7:00, it is not the end of the world.

* Saying no doesn’t mean that you’ll never help, or never buy the toy, it just means no not right this minute on this day when you are asking me to do so.

* Put needs before wants and only say yes if you really can.